36 Things: Dear Destiny, I’m Ready!
So Back in July 2010, my cousin who is an avid blogger, foodie and social fanatic, sent me a list that was published in Glamour magazine. “36 Things Every Single Girl Must Do Before She Settles Down” and I just had to do it!
I immediately started going through the list and checking things off.
Talk about a whirlwind!
It is now 5 years later and I have FINALLY & SUCCESSFULLY completed EVERYTHING on this list! #9 was the final thing for me to complete, which happened this past week and might I say, it was EPIC!
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Don’t ask me why I have been so adamant about completing every task on this list. It has literally sat on my desk at work like unfinished business. I kinda have a thing for lists and crossing off tasks.
Here is the list, I’ll talk about my experiences and share some pics.
To Build Your Confidence…
1. Go to a movie alone. (This wasn’t too weird and I actually enjoyed it.)
2. Lift weights. (LOL all the people at the gym think I’m nuts because I’m so small, but weights aren’t so bad.)
3. Try surfing, water-skiing, or some activity you don’t already know how to do. (I went snorkeling for the first time while in Jamaica in 2010.)
4. Take out the trash, set a mousetrap, do your taxes, build a bookcase. (I got my first apartment at 18, so trash duty was a must. I have also built a bookcase from Ikea.)
5. Live alone, or at least move apartments without the help of family. (Been there, 1st solo apartment was in 2003.)
6. Train for (and finish) a huge physical test like a half-marathon. (Umm wasn’t crazy “huge,” but I did 3 mud runs back to back in a 2 month time span.)
7. Go to a scary doctor’s appointment by yourself. (One day on my way to work, my vision kept blacking out, I was so freaked out because I thought I was going blind, but I went to the ER alone, scared. Turns out my blood sugar was crazy low.)
8. Quit your job. (I quit my first job at Burger King. At the time I had just started working security at the airport and kept on at BK as a PT employee. One night, I got tired of the rude customers, took my headset off in the middle of the drive-thru and walked out.)
9. Fly to a foreign country by yourself. (This was so crazy, but one of the most EPIC life experiences. I traveled to Abu Dhabi and Dubai ALONE – LOVED it!)
10. Learn to stand up for yourself. (This was easy to check off. LOL everyone knows I’m a bit of a spit-fire personality – it’s the Sagittarius in me.)
To Be Able to Look Back and Say “I Had Fun”…
11. Witness something once-in-a-lifetime. (Another EPIC adventure happened during one of my sorority conferences in Alaska. I met a pilot in a bar and he took me on a private plane ride over the Knick glacier. We were so close and the plane was so small – Matt was his name. He definitely gave me a life experience and didn’t ask for anything in return except a signed copy of the book I wrote.)
12. Revel in being able to watch all the reality TV you want. (Bravo, VH-1 and Oxygen reality TV shows all fill my DVR – don’t judge me!)
13. Get drunk during the day, just because you can. Attend Santacon, the convention for santas, or similar. (This was actually fun and silly at the same time.)
14. Go on a date with someone who actually makes you nervous. (So there was this guy and even though I had known him, going on a date with him totally bugged me out, in a good way. I just thought he was/is so damn handsome! Although my personality can be robust, I’m actually kinda shy and even to this day, I still get nervous around him sometimes.)
15. Go out with an older man who takes you somewhere nice and makes you feel like a million bucks. (Now this was interesting. It wasn’t hard to complete because my daughters father is 11years older than me. He was always very chivalrous back when we first started dating. Downtown for site seeing/walking, flowers every Tuesday, nice hotels after dinner and dancing. I don’t know that I felt like a million bucks, but I was appreciative of his courting ways – back then.)
16. Go out with a guy who makes you laugh ‘til it hurts. (Umm this could be checked off a million times over. I tend to gravitate toward and am attracted to guys with a good sense of humor and because I’m easily entertained, silly, I like to laugh often.)
To Get Perspective…
17. Be a good wingwoman. It’s not always about you. (I’ve been a wingwoman for my sister and my besties – ehh!)
18. Chill with your widowed and single grandma. She knows “alone”! (My Great-Grandmother is AMAZINGLY funny. She is totally a spit-fire at 91 still. I love to sit with her and talk. “Gramma Mildred” is great.) I’m surprising her for Easter this year.
19. Volunteer. (I’m in a sorority so this is a given, but outside of that, I voluntarily teach, mentor and tutor at church.)
To Make You Appreciate the Next Guy…
20. Do at least one Valentine’s Day alone. (I’ve done this and its not so bad.)
21. Attend a wedding (or 15) alone. (One of my best male friends got married in NC, I remember driving down thinking how much of a dork I’d look like showing up alone, but I went anyway. I had a great time too.)
22. Date the creeps. You’ll really value the nice guys afterward. (I dated a creep – I won’t even waste space talking about him.)
To Make You Feel Sexy and Attractive…
23. Buy yourself some flowers. (I love to buy myself tulips and Gerber daisies.)
24. Invest in a LBD (little black dress) and some sexy stilettos. (Check & check)
25. Sit at a bar by yourself and drink a martini. (You actually get more unattached drink offers when you go alone. Whoo-hoo!)
26. Buy something frivolous and expensive that you LOVE wearing. (I’ve never been a materialistic person, but I love handbags, but couldn’t stomach the price of the ones at “Bloomies.” One day I gave in and I did it anyway. $472 on a purse, it was fun and I totally wore it OUT! LOL I still wear it from time to time.)
To Make the Most of Your Free Time…
27. Finish all your schooling if you can. (Done! I have 3 degrees – completed all with Honors and I don’t plan on going back for a PhD unless its being paid for by someone else lol)
28. Throw yourself into something time-consuming, like learning a foreign language. (I do this all the time, one of the biggest was solely planning a scholarship banquet and charity walk all for a scholarship fund I started – with NO MONEY. I had no idea what I was doing, but it all went off without a hitch!)
To Make Yourself a Better Partner in the Future…
29. Make a list of all your faults. (Self analysis is hard. Whew, but I made a list – I’ll forever be a work in progress, but I’m as perfect as I should be!)
30. Learn to cook well. (This is easy LOL I love cooking, well.)
31. Get some hobbies. Something’s gotta keep you occupied—plus it’ll make you seem interesting. (Sewing and crafting, but you knew that.)
32. Let your married friends edit your online dating profile. (My best friends and sorority line sisters thought I was nuts! They did it for me anyway.)
33. Get your finances in order. (Budgeting is a learned process, but I’m way better at handling my money than ever before. The Budgetnista has been a tremendous help!)
To Appreciate Being Single…
34. Babysit someone’s baby for an hour. (I used to babysit my nephew for my sister all the time.)
35. Help a friend through her divorce or a bad break-up. (Done this both with a friend’s bad breakup and with my sisters divorce.)
36. Host a girls-only night. (My friends and I used to do this monthly, then we got busy with life. We definitely need to get back to this!)
This was a great list and I had a ball getting to know myself while crossing everything off! How many of these things have you done?